Questions at 4:40 am

I was watching this interview with this well known Christian artist. So many are speaking out against her. But she just doesn't seem to feel like she is doing anything wrong. And so I found myself wondering...I wonder whats worse? Me in my current situation, which by any standards is pretty sinful. I'm unmarried , living with my boyfriend , pregnant with our first child and raising his child from a marriage that isn't even legally over yet. So yea im not judging. Just wondering..whats worse? To know your doing wrong and continue  by telling yourself that it won't always be this way. That at some point the sins or wrongs in your life will be made right if you just hold on a little longer. Or..is it worse to really believe your doing nothing wrong. To blindly believe that you can say "I follow and have faith in this" then bend and break it until it fits your own will? None of us have the right to sit in judgement I think the message is love. But does that mean because the message is love that we as Christians should just look the other way anytime we see someone stumbling..so that they can fool themselves into thinking that all is well..when clearly it probably isn't. I have no delusions about my current situation. While I do believe we will be married one day it doesn't make my choice to live in sin less real..I guess my point in all this rambling is..does that make it worse?? Because I know what I'm doing contradicts what I believe is right and do it anyway...and yet still call myself a christian and still try and have a walk with God. Or is the truth simply that we do all know deep down when we are wrong because God convicts us but some choose to admit they are ignoring that conviction while others choose to pretend they never got it. I don't think anyone of faith has the right to beat up anyone else with their beliefs. I'm not suggesting I go to jo blow down the street and tell him all about himself. I'm speaking from a personal point view. Do we in the christian community sit down when we should stand up....and stand up all to publicly when we should sit down?? Or do we choose to stand up for all the wrong things and reasons. I don't know. I watched that interview...that aired sometime last year. And I watched that girl that I have so admired be so defiant in the face of criticism and I also watched a religious leader publicly judge her. Should he have called her at home instead? Or was it more  important somehow to do it in a public forum? I don't know. Where is the middle ground? Where do we find the balance between preaching the love of God and teaching the will of God. And if we did a better job of that..would it be harder to ignore his convictions on our lives? I don't know..I really don't. But there is one thing I am pretty sure of. We got it wrong somewhere.